Recently I wrote about the things you DON’T have to include in your wedding ceremony, no matter what you’ve seen on TV or what someone else told you! This time I’d like to suggest some alternatives to many of these traditional wedding components.
I’ve got so many of these amazing alternative suggestions that I’ve decided to split this post. Check back over the next few weeks for the next instalments!
You don’t have to have a bridal party
There is absolutely no need for you to have a bridal party. Maybe it’s too hard to choose just a few special people to stand with you, so you may want to view ALL your guests as your bridal party. Alternatively, maybe you want the only people to be front and centre during this important moment to be the two of you and your celebrant. Feel happy and proud to stand up there together, just the two of you.
You don’t have to make a grand entrance
If you and your partner just want to be there together as your guests arrive, that’s absolutely fine. There is no rule that says the groom has to be one nervously waiting for the bride to turn up, and no rule that says anyone has to walk down an aisle. If you’re having a more relaxed, casual wedding, you both may want to be in attendance to greet your guests as they arrive, and just get the ceremony started when it feels right.
You don’t have to stand in a line with your guests sitting in front of you
It’s pretty common for the bride and groom to stand in the middle with their attendants out to either side, and the guest sitting in rows in front of them, like in a theatre, but there’s nothing wrong with thinking outside the square here. Have you thought about seating your guests in a giant circle around the ceremony space, surrounding the couple with their love?
The groom doesn’t have to wait for the bride at the end of the aisle
You know what? If the bride gets to make a grand entrance, why shouldn’t the groom? I love it when my grooms take the opportunity to also have a special moment in which they enter the space to music of their choosing – my most memorable instance of this to date involved the Indiana Jones theme music…
I hope it’s become apparent that the whole point here is that there are next to no rules, just what is meaningful for you as a couple for your special day. I am flexible and adaptable enough that I can cope with any idea you throw at me, and I firmly believe that marriage ceremonies should be personalised, meaningful, and all about YOU.