A few months ago I raised one issue with the statement “you may now kiss the bride” – I wanted to know why the bride didn’t get to kiss the groom!
Since then I’ve thought of another issue I have with this traditional statement – why on earth does a newly married couple need my permission to kiss on their wedding day? Now obviously I can’t be certain of this, but I’m pretty sure every single couple I marry will have kissed at some point before their wedding day. They didn’t need my permission then, and they sure as hell don’t need it now!
My preferred statement of “please celebrate your marriage with a kiss” removes this permission-granting aspect and simply imbues the kiss with the celebratory feeling it deserves.
Of course, if you’d like to stick with tradition and have me tell the groom he may now kiss his beautiful bride, I am more than happy to do so – as always, the most important thing for me is every word in your wedding is personalised and meaningful to you.